Let Go

Question: have you used your mouth to cause hurt lately?  Many believers don’t think about what comes forth from their mouths and they hurt others by spewing negativity around because of their anger.  I am writing this because I have been guilty of this many times in the past and I have heard many negative things over the years from others.  I was reading a blog about this subject this morning and I felt like I should write on the same topic from my own experience.

Many times our words shape other people’s lives for the worse, and not for the better.  How many times, in fits of anger, have you let your flesh lash out and literally crush someone emotionally and even spiritually?  As we get older, and hopefully more mature, I think we take more time to meditate on the things that we have been involved in over the years, so we repent and try to do better.  I would like to pass on some of what I learned and try to help others in these areas.

Being bitter is a dead end road; it will never be used to heal, but only to destroy.  If you allow a bitter root to grow within your heart, it will destroy every ounce of good within you, if left to spew out poison on those that you come in contact with.  I have learned over the years that even anger that has not progressed to bitterness is a destroyer unless it is a righteous anger, the kind Jesus had in the temple.

Pride has a lot to do with anger and they fit together well.  Many people are very prideful, though they would not admit it, and because of their pride they get very angry at times.  Anger may also be caused by a substance abuse problem or past hurts that haven’t been dealt with.  Marriages are notorious for anger issues, which lead to bitterness and outbursts of anger and if not controlled will end up either in divorce or separation, or two people living together without loving each other, or maybe even spousal abuse.  Many of these things come from downright pride, always having to have the last word.  Then not only is the marriage destroyed, but if there are kids involved, they are devastated and what have they learned from the experience?  They may become psychologically and emotionally scarred for life.

Some things take place in church that make believers angry, then dads, moms or children come home and spew that anger on their families or whoever else may be there and they don’t even think about the damage they are causing with their words.  Even if the things we say are true it makes a big difference who we say them to and how we say them.  I am sure that a believer wouldn’t want to be the cause of any of their children or grandchildren not wanting to go to church because of the anger and hostility that they experienced and heard from you about the pastor or the church you have been attending over the years.  I know that I have been guilty of these things and I am very sorry and ashamed.  It is far better to take these things to the Lord, and to the person who has offended you, dealing with it in private and settling the matter between you and the person involved so you can let the offence go instead of letting it take control of your emotions, causing your flesh to rise up and allowing the anger to turn into bitterness.  Like I said earlier, the wrong kind of anger will end up as a destroyer, and a bitter root is something that you do not want in your life.

This is not the first time that I have written on this subject but until we learn these lessons, we need to hear, or in this case read, them over and over again, until they finally breakthrough and go from our head into our heart and we repent and apply them to our lives.  Something to think about!!  God bless and have a great day!!